Life Design: No Victims Allowed

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I have the week off work—yay! I’m looking forward to our first snowfall, and I am happy I don’t have to be out there in it.

Just before I went on vacation, I was chatting with the receptionist, and she had this document on her desk; Design Your Life in 28 Days. The first question I noticed was … (Drum Roll Please)

Write down three words that describe who you are.
Curious, Creative, Reflective (sometimes I’m more Introspective)

She was nice enough to give me the sheet of paper. It’s a short form of the Life Designer Journal, which is a short form of Designing Your Life. (Don’t quote me, but you should check them out.) I plan to get through all four weeks/twenty-eight exercises by Friday, December 6.

Music Interlude

🎶

Our house
is a very, very, very fine house
with two kids in the yard
Life used to be so hard
Now everything is easy
Light the fire
I’m feeling sleazy
and outside is getting breezy

🎶
This song was in my head when I woke up

People: Their Behaviour and Feelings

The other day, I was asking my boss something about the sales process, and he was like, “Why are you asking that? Why do you need to know that?” He sort of explained things to me, but I remember his attitude about it, and I was just curious. I can’t remember what I was working on at the time, but a bunch of process questions popped into my head. WTF! I don’t know anything about sales; I just wanted to understand the whats and whys.

In those moments I remind myself that people’s behaviour has nothing to do with me. Like Dr. Gabor Maté, I’m taking responsibility for my feelings – I wish everyone would do that. Don’t put that shit on me. Mind you, this is something my Dad used to tell me from young …

“Your feelings are not my responsibility.”
Dad

I know it sounds harsh, but have you ever had conversations where people blame you for how they feel? Innocently or not, you said something; they got bent, and it’s all your fault.

Dr. Gabor is in my head because Dad sent me a video; Dr. Gabor Maté answers question about October 7th during conference. You should watch it; it’s not long. I love the whole thing but when he talks about allowing himself to get triggered and apologizing, that stuck with me.

There aren’t many people in my life that I can have deep conversations with – to the few, Thank you! You know who you are, yes! 🤗🙏

That’s it for today. I’m getting back to this life design thing. I have a TTC Adventure to share with you. It’s 8:00 PM EST or 2000 hours if you’re on military time. And why do they say x hundred hours? Shouldn’t it be a thousand? They forget basic math in the military? That looks like two thousand to me—guess it’s good I wasn’t in the military. I could look up why, but I don’t care.

Anyhow, it’s now 8:15 PM. I encourage you to go party with your wild things, and while you are doing that, think about the three words that describe you and if there’s shit you need to work on, work on it!